After several accounts with some people around me, I come to realize something. The one who holds the anger usually gets his or her energy drained. Unless the one is the Incredible Hulk who draws his strength from his anger and madness, one should make every effort to manage and control his anger.
Worse still, when agitated the other party gets angry as well, both sides will end up de-energized after shouts and yells. So emotionally draining. Though easily said than done, I have heard suggestions that work sometimes.
1. Take a few breaths and think again.
2. Calm the person down with sound reasoning, fulfilling as close as possible to the persons wants if possible.
3. Count 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10. Discuss the issue now
4. Isolate yourself for a moment so that can give yourself time to cool down and calm down.
Just remember. When you feed on anger, it somehow just feeds on you.
I remember the Bible has a verse that says:
Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.
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